Wednesday, February 09, 2005
Love again
"Interdependence is a choice that only independent people can make." Stephen R. Cover, The 6 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Love is never enough, except between a parent and a new born. Between two mature adults, it takes a capacity for both to have grown up emotionally. Why? Sustaining a good relationship requires some effort. After the high of the first 3 months, come the inevitable differences. For a relationship to not only survive but thrive, both participants need to be capable and willing to find solutions that respect the needs of both. And this exercise requires a high level self-knowledge and the capacity to admit not owning The Truth, which requires a healthy dose of self-esteem and self-acceptance. Defensiveness and refusal to discuss issues is a sure sign that more work needs to be done on the self.
Marguerite Tennier, M.A.
http://www.canadascoach.com
P.S. Stay tuned for a brand new look on my website soon.
Love is never enough, except between a parent and a new born. Between two mature adults, it takes a capacity for both to have grown up emotionally. Why? Sustaining a good relationship requires some effort. After the high of the first 3 months, come the inevitable differences. For a relationship to not only survive but thrive, both participants need to be capable and willing to find solutions that respect the needs of both. And this exercise requires a high level self-knowledge and the capacity to admit not owning The Truth, which requires a healthy dose of self-esteem and self-acceptance. Defensiveness and refusal to discuss issues is a sure sign that more work needs to be done on the self.
Marguerite Tennier, M.A.
http://www.canadascoach.com
P.S. Stay tuned for a brand new look on my website soon.
